Hey everyone,
I was just wondering how you deal with your KP and relationships/dating. There's is a new guy on my path, but I'm really insecure about my KP. I have it on my arms, legs and face. I'm so worried that he would like to touch me in my face and he's pointed out that he would like to go to beach when the summer arrives. I'm really stressing out, I only go to the beach with people who know that I have KP. And I also have wet palms and because of my KP stress it get wors. I'm sick of letting boy's go, because of the KP. I told my last boyfriend that I had KP, I just showed him my lower arms ( I have it a little bit on my lower arms)I was not ready to show my arms and legs but the relationship ended not long after that( other reasons). I was wondering If you could just give me some tips and I would like to here your stories. I really like this guy and I don't want to let him go because of the kp.......

sheeba-
there was a guy who i absolutely adored (before i met my husband) we dated for three months and broke up over a misconception, not b/c of the kp. we remained friends. the guy was 6 feet tall, dark hair, green eyes, a bod to die for, super intelligent, athletic, great singer, name it...he could do it. Anyway so after we broke up (mind you we dated during a summer and we both lived at the beach) and were still friends, I was in his bathroom and saw a salisylic (sp) wash on his counter.I asked him what it is was for and he shows me HIS kp. It was on his arms, not too severe and he did not have hairy arms to cover it. I have KP and never noticed his. He was so cool and confident, you would never know. I purchased the wash as well and it was one of those that works for while and then didn't anymore. I asked him about my KP and he said it is not that noticeable even though I thought it was. Now we are KP buddies (even though we are both married-I met my husband at one of this guys' parties) and email eachother every so often about treatments, etc.
I have never been mentally defeated by KP- have been a cheerleader (was even asked to try out for the Raiderettes), a model, lived in bikinis at the beach, been asked out by professional athletes, dated a model, married a doctor. And trust me, southern california is a hotbed of gorgeous people and women with a lot of 'surgeries' (not me though). But I have only been without a date once for 3 months (I was tired of the drama and just hung out with the girls for a while). I am not saying this to brag but I just wanted to let you know that KP is more damaging to your psyche than your lovelife. I have KP on my arms and legs and sometimes my stomach. This is the first year I am even covering it up with makeup only b/c I have never seen it so red. I only cover it up for pictures though. And get this...my KP free husband did not even realize I had it until I was pregnant with my son and it became worse. I told him I have always had it and he was suprised.
Hang in there! And if I guy is not interested in you b/c of the KP, then it is his issue, not yours. But that's a whole different novel! :0)
Good luck!

Oh, one more thing. I posted this on the other board, but as long as your facial skin is not overly sensitive or 'raw' from a lot of treatments, try the regular Biore facial wipes. You can get a 10 pack trial size at Target for under 2 bucks. Anyway, my face has been bump free for years b/c whenever one pops up, I use the Biore wipe and the next day it is gone or really small and then diminishes when I use another wipe the next night. It will not do anything for the circulatory redness but thats what make up is for :0)

Thanks for your message. I know that there are other people around who have kp, but it still hard to deal with. I'm trying not to let it get me down, but it's hard. Im going to try the facial wiphes. I don't live in the US so I'm going to order it online and I hope it will work! I saw on the biore website that they also have the blemish facial whipes. That has salicylic acid in it. I think I'm going to try that one out to.
thanks for the tip!

Good luck. I know different thinggs work different on all of us but I think it is worthwile to try the cheaper 'remedies'.
How old are you, BTW? I am just wondering because I know KP was a much bigger issue as a teen and early twenties, as all all physical issues. Now that I am in my 30's, my issue is the lack of tone, not my KP when I went to try on bathingsuits today. I am only one size bigger than I was before I had my son but the body parts just don't look as good as they once did in a bathingsuit. Ah well... :0)
Good luck. Let me know how the Biore works for you

The best thing u can do is find a guy who has KP too!
Me and my sister both have boyfriends who have KP, it's great! lol....they understand what its like and they don't think we look like freaks

And if a guy breaks up with you over some bumps on you skin, then he isnt worth your time of day.

Hi late response, but thanks boosmom.
When I posted that message I was in down period with my kp. It's now summer and I where short sleeves and even go swimming. I've have decided that mopping is not going to help me. I have kp and there's nothing that will make it go away( at least nothing that I've found yet). In the summer I'm more confidend because I go tanning and my skin looks much better and we all know that our skin is horrible in the winter. I'm still working on my self esteem. But over all I think having a partner with kp would make things a lot easier like babycoco said.
I'm still with the same guy, but he doesn't know it yet. At least I don't think so. When he touch my arms he doesn't say anything. So I don't know if I should tell him. I think I will tell him after he will notice it.

Sheeba- think about it...if he has touched your arms more than once then he is either okay with it or doesn't notice it because he is smitten Either way, it's all good! If he touched your arms and never did again, then there would be something to question. If you get insecure or defensive about it, it is your reaction I am sure that will set him back not the KP.
My husband does not have KP, but he is far from perfect !! He'd end up sleeping on the couch for life if he ever gave me a hard time about KP.

Have a great weekend with your dood

Well it did cross my mind that he didn't mind it. But he did it a few times when I was wearing sleevles tops. Most of the time my sleeves are a bit longer, so that the cover my upper arms. So that's why I'm still a bit insecure. I'm sure that wouldn't mind but it's a huge step for me to talk to him about it.

I have never mentioned kp to my boyfriend. We have been together for 4 years, and he almost never noticed it except once when I overused glycolic acid and burned my skin. It looked so bad that he was so shocked (we were in the shower together. ) and asked me what happened to my arms. I told him that I tried to peel my skin and burned it (I tried to sound carefree and matter- of-fact), and he laughed and said that he doesn't understand why women always use many skin products and end up hurting themselves.

For some reason I don't want to get into the genetic issue with him. If he touches my arms and askes me about the bumps (this happened only once in the 4 years we have been together), I would say I have bumps when it is too hot. I tried to say it as if it is very commen.

Hey all:

I'm orthodox jewish and I dress pretty covered all the time as part of my religious observance. I plan on remaining abstinent till i get married. I want to date and get married within the next few years, but my KP is always on my mine. It's bad and I feel like I can't have a normal married life. I'm afraid that when my husband sees me for the first time he'll be turned off. I'm so scared of that that I rather not get married then have to deal with that. My friends look forward to the time when they can be with their husbands and undress in front of them. I really want this too, but I dread it cause of the KP and I'm torn apart as a result of this emotional rollercoaster hell.

Please share your expereince and tell me how you have come to terms with these situations.

Thank you so much!!

hey Daisy,
I know how you feel. I was really insecure with my KP towards my boyfriend. But I learned that love overcomes all. At first he didn't notice the kp. he was always touching my arm and I would then get uncomfortable and pull my arm back. It took a long time for him to notice it.When he first notice was when I was dressing myself, but I was standing in the sunlight. So he asked what is that on your arms. I was really uncomfartable and told him that I had used a bad lotion for my skin. But that I broke down and told him about my KP. I was scared that he was going to think that I was some kind of freak and that it was grose. But he doesn't mind at all. He's always saying that it's nothing. Well what i wanted to say with this, is that when someone really loves you it doen't matter how you look on the outside. It's all about the inside. I know that me saying this isn't going to make the insecurity go away. But I hope that you'r going to think more positive about it. Down let it bring you down. Because when you'll find your futher husband and it's true love you'll see KP will be nothing to him.

Hey all!~
I always have this skin condition very bad on both of my legs!~ Even though all my frds tell me that love is not about looks, I was still very worry and scare that my bf will dump me when he finds out my skin.. We have been dating for a year already and i can feel that he still loves me very much.. So, I'm just writing to let you know that if he loves you, then he loves you, depite the truth fact that you have KP or you don't.. (and now I really believe in this.. "love is not about looks" + What we need is confidence, and believe that we're beautiful inside out!) Most importanly, be happy =)

I understand the uncomforable feeling people have with KP. I have recently gotten married, and it "grosses" my husband. I know he loves me very much, but he hates to touch it. My derm says I have probably the worst case he has seen on my arms, but I have it on my legs and other places. He tries to completely avoid my upper arms, where it is the worst. He understands that I have no control over this condition, and he is very supportive (emotionally and finacially) in helping me find something that will help me.
I have tried several cremes and lotions. My derm just gave me a gylcolic acid body wash and lotion to try. I have only been using it for a few days, but it already seems to be helping. Let's keep those fingers crossed.
By the way, does anyone know if KP is genetic? My eight year old daughter was just diagnosed with it. My son who is 12 told me tonight that he has bumps, too-which looks like KP.