Hey guys! hope u don't mind but i just feel like having a bit of a rant... SORRY ITS SO LONG!

I've been through alot since the old KP board was taken down and i blame it all on KP! (I know i shouldn't but i do lol) I was going out with my bf for about 1 year and 8 months, when i finally decided to confess to him bout my kp... (he had already seen it but never asked what it was or mentioned it) Like, it was more for me than for him, i had previously been so worried about him seeing it on my arms, and would always hide it, and i was so proud of myself to finally have the courage to tell him about it... and i finally told him, and he was like "oh yeh those pimples u have all ova ur body ive already seen them" i got really defensive n was like "they r not pimples! and i dont have it ALL ova my body!" but anywayz to cut a long story short, he dumped me a few days later out of the blue (coincedently the same night the kp msg board went down! .... like i just cant seem 2 explain it and the only answer i can find is cuz of the KP... sounds stupid i know, but he just all of a sudden decided he didnt love me coincedently the same time i told him about kp. Of course there mustve been sumfin else, but i'm sure the kp had sumfin 2 do with it!!

This happend 3 months ago, and ever since then i've been extremely depressed He was my first real love so i haven't been coping well at all going thru this breakup. He was my best friend too. After he dumped me i gave up on treating my kp cuz i felt there was no point. I get told that i can easily get another bf who will respect me (my ex was an ******* 2 me) and i get told i'm good looking by lots of guys, cept I'm too scared to get a new bf because im scared of his reaction when he see's or i tell him about my kp... I have no self-esteem at all!! I hate how kp limits us.

Anywayz, after about 2 months i decided i was gonna fight the kp again, and purchased sum more MSM, i had run out of sulfur soap so was just going to try the MSM by itself.... and what i found was interesting.. heaps of ppl have said that MSM doesnt do anything for them, but for me it really cleared up sum patches all by itself without any scrubbing or sulfur soap. So yeh.. it must work, unless it had sum placebo effect on me! A birthday of a friends was coming up and i knew that my ex was going to be there and he had told alot of the guys that i cant wear sleevless tops and i despertaly wanted to show them that i do have confidence (cuz my lack of confidence mixed with kp is wat i believe drove him away) and can wear those tops so i scrubed my arms, slapped on st.tropez fake tan, scrubed my arms again (cuz the tan got caught in sum of the pores n scars) and put a layer of foundation on both arms with a makeup sponge then brushed on translucent powder over them and put on a little red halter neck top! for like the first time in about 4 years i went out in public with a sleeveless top!! i was so proud of myself lol Luckily the bday was at a club, so it was kinda dark anywayz which helped! But yeh, i felt sooooooo good being able 2 wear a sleeveless top, at first i was scared ppl were going to give me weird looks if they saw my kp, but i asked one of the guys if he could see a rash on my arms and he was like "what? nah what r u talking about i cant see anything" and i even got compliments from sum of the guys tellin me that i looked really good. It was like the best feeling... i wish i could feel like that everyday. My ex got kicked out of the club that night which was extra funny cuz he tried to punch the guy i had brought with me lol. I just wish i could wear shortsleeve tops in daylight!! but arghh wat can u do...

I'm sorry to hear about your ex being a jerk, hopefully it wasn't just because of the KP, but if it was, then he is too superficial for you and you shouldn't waste your time with him!

I've been lucky enough to always have bf's who didn't mind at all, in fact, I think my current bf has it as well, but I'm not for sure, so I think he never thought about it. I was able to confess my KP to him (didn't know what it was, just told him I was insecure about it) and the sweating too. He is still very much attracted to me, and that helps a lot.

I'm glad you had a night of fun, you need more of those! I still run around with short sleeve tops on, despite people asking me if I "got too much sun" and I just shrug it off and tell them that my arms are always red. They get over it, its just a matter of US getting over it.

Have you tried tanning salons or sun bathing..

I know it helped to keep KP off my son's face until the cold weather came.

hey yeh ive tried going to a tanning salon and tanning out in the sun, but i found it just made my arms really red and irritated...
im going on holidayz 2 Europe in a few weeks so im hoping the sun/uv rays over there might b different then wat we have down here in Australia.

dont worry about it. Any guy who would dump you for something that stupid is a total loser. the 2 friends of mine who have this both have tons of guys who like them and so do i...and im sure you do as well.....are you sure he dumped you because of that? i have a hard time believing anyone would care about something so miniscule so much! don't give up on finding a cure....because if you do you can tell me!

BabyCoco, I'll tell you a secret. Your KP doesn't matter to most people as much as it matters to you. I've had it since I was a kid and I am 47 years old and have been married to the same guy for almost 17 years.

My DH has stretch marks and he gets heat rash from hot water, so he's cool about skin things, and no one has ever in my life said anything about my KP; in fact, I didn't even know what it was called until I did a Google search on "bumpy arms" a few weeks ago. I just figured it was somethng all fat women had.


If your BF dumped you because of your KP, and he knew you had it before you told him, he might have been freaked out because you were freaked out over it. Ultimately, KP is like eye color or the shape of your nose -- it's something you were born with (lucky you) and other people only notice it to the extent you do. As "disfigurements" go, this one is pretty mild.

No, I don't like mine either, and I'd love to find something to help, but right now I am itching like mad because of mixing too many things to try to address it, and frankly, I'd rather have KP.

It looks to me like some products work for some people, and others work for others.

BabyCoco, you are young for such a short time! Go out, wear what you want, enjoy yourself and feel fabulous about yourself. Don't sweat the KP. Do what you can but don't dwell on it, because no one notices it as much as you do.

if he dumped you over KP you are better off without him. What a jerk! I have had KP since I was 8 or 9 and never once has anyone I've dated said a word about it. My hubby didn't really even notice it until I pointed it out to him. You will find a man that will love you for you and not for your skin. ((hugs))

It's amazing, but true!! (and wonderful when it happens!)

I'm sure you've already heard this, but take it from a chick in her 30's that's had this stuff a long time. I do have darker skin, my arms just look like I have red bumps on them, BUT no man that would dump you because of this **** is worth the air you exhale when telling him to take a hike.

A real man isn't gonna care about bumps on your body, Hunny. Trust me.

Nic

im a guy, and i can tell you for sure that i would never care at all if a woman i was dating had this (has nothing to do with the fact that i have it myself). no one i've ever dated has even noticed it, except for one girl who had it herself. if i were you, i wouldnt even worry about it.

Thanks for saying that Fred. ive kept myself from alot of relationships for fear that a guy would reject me because of it. And ive liked this one certain guy for so long but im afraid to do anything about it because of my kp. like, i always think a guy is going to want his girlfriend to show off her body and where sleeveless shirts, but i never do. i wear shorts but not tanks and and its pretty damn hot down here so thats all girls ever wear so like theres all this competition about who looks good and what not but you never see me with bared arms and all. its quite depressing thats its all i ever think of and i limit myself to the world and fashion.

i hope there are more guys like you who wouldnt care if htere gf had kp.

hey i think i would rather go out with a girl that has keratosis pilaris cause we could both feel comfortable around each other and not have to hide. We would both have something in common and could fightit together

i would be really surprised if any guy you dated even noticed it. in fact, im surprised to see that so many people are so self-conscious about it. ive had these little bumps on the backs of my arms for as long as i can remember, and never thought much about it all. i dated girls from the time i was 15 until i met my wife at 30. That's 15 years of dating girls, and never once was it even the slightest problem. i didnt even know that there was a name for it until i looked it up on the internet purely out of curiosity.

you're right that us guys like our girlfriends to show off their bodies, but thats because we like the way you look, and we want you to like your body as much as we do! I think you should wear clothes that you like, and not worry about it. i guarantee that if a guy likes the way you look with a shirt covering your arms, he'll like you with your arms exposed...and in private he'll definetely like the way you look with no shirt on at all, and he wont be paying attention to the backs of your arms! confidance is always very sexy.

good to know thanks

awww, don't worry. I'm married to a great looking guy and he's really nice too. Your BF is just a JERK! I had a guy in college break up with me because he said I gave him Clymidia(sp). I was HORRIFIED and promptly went to my doctor who told me if he had clymidia he got it from someone else because I had a normal pap about a week before (phew!) . BLAH to him, and you're better off without him. There are men out there who aren't superficial like that and I bet once you're a little older it will be easier to meet them.