Think i got dumped cuz of KP! Grrrrr

madness · #16 08-04-2005, 10:14 PM

wow i really know what you mean...since i was in junior high i would always think to myself that i would never be with a guy because i was too scared he would find out and do something stupid like that! I'm with a guy now who supposedly "never noticed" but maybe that's because i don't go anywhere with short sleeves or shorts. Anyways, i've been thinking about doing that same thing- going to a club with makeup on my arms! i hope it works and it doesn't sweat off and my shirt will be all makeup colored...haha but really i mean if any guy does that they're probably too shallow to be worth your time. But your first love- ouch. that's why i was always so scared to be with anyone! i'm tired of always hiding everything from everyone. I'm sooo tired of spending so much money on lotions and trying to keep track of what i use and what might be making a difference. BUT lately i think it's been getting a little better. Does anyone know if lactic acid is weaker than salycyclic acid or which is better for kp? thanks.

madness · #17 08-04-2005, 10:17 PM

Hi yeah i know what you mean...ever since junior high or before i would think i would never be with a guy because he'd find out and do something stupid like that. I'm with a guy now who supposedly "doesn't notice" but then again i never wear anything shorter than pants and i never wear short sleeves in public or around him. Your first love- ouch. But then again if he would do that he's too shallow for you anyways. I was actually thinking of doing the same thing you did- going to a club with makup on my arms but ii hope i wouldn't sweat it off and have a makeup colored shirt! I'm tired of always hiding! I WILL NOT go out of the house without makeup on my face and long sleeves. blahhh i'm tired of all the lotions and trying to keep track of what's working. I think it might be getting a little better recently though. Does anyone know if salyclic acid is better than lactic acid??

madness · #18 08-04-2005, 10:19 PM

woops! i thought my computer messed up on that first one sorry haha

ayliapowell · #19 11-04-2005, 01:42 AM

this is kinda funny. ive had kp since i was about 10 and im 17 now. i never knew what it was and my doctor just told me it was massivly dry skin. until i ran across this article in the allure magazine and i read it and looked up keratosis pilaris on the internet. and whaddya know? its exactly what i have. well so i started dating my bf over a year ago and it was summertime and i HATE wearing little shorts and t shirts and all that cuz my bumps are all over my legs and my arms. so he took me swimming and i was like im really self conscious of my body because i have these bumps and i dont know what its from. and he takes one look at me and says what are you talking about? you are beautiful!
and yea, im still with him and it doesnt bother him at all. im so comfortable around him that in the summer i wear my little short shorts and i dont care because he doesnt care. but now that ive found out what i have im goin to try some of the things people have had luck with on this site and see if it clears up because i still dont have the self esteem that i want to have and i think if i clear up my kp it will make it that much easier for me to bring it up.

xoxo
aylia

ps. im so happy im not the only one out there with this condition and that there are forums about it. its making it that much easier to accept it and try to do something about it.

Yellowadept · #20 11-04-2005, 10:50 AM

Great to hear aylia ^^
And you are most definitely not alone. The average is 40-45% of people all people currently sufferer from one form of KP or another or have at some point in their past. You'd think with think with those numbers, the medical community would work a little harder on it, but eh.
I'm just glad to hear you didn't let it control you.

Christina Bella · #21 11-04-2005, 02:51 PM

Aw... you say you don't have a lot of self esteem or whatever - but it takes a strong person (w/ KP) to go out there and wear a tank top. GOOD FOR YOU! Your boyfriend was a jerk and doesn't deserve someone like you anyhow! My boyfriend knows about my KP and even though I'm very embarassed about it, he never says anything to me (except to quite picking them!) and the support really helps. There are guys out there that don't care and will love you for you, not what your arms look like. Sometimes men are such asses, but I'm proud of you for being so strong - and it doesn't hurt that he was obviously jealous at the party and tried to punch someone - must have been classic watching him get kicked out!

janiedorinda · #22 03-05-2006, 10:35 PM

i have had kp all my life im now 45 . i didnt know what it was until my twins were about 11yrs old i took them to the doctor and thats when i found out just what it was

. i never let myself be ashamed of my skin because i knew it wasnt my fault. all 4 of my children and 4 grand children have kp i hate it but we deal with it. if ppl dont like it its their problem not ours. dont hide find mr right and be happy..good luck sweet pea and dont let that loser hurt you anymore like you said he was an ******* anyway..your better off without him ..janie

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Originally Posted by BabyCoco

Hey guys! hope u don't mind but i just feel like having a bit of a rant... SORRY ITS SO LONG!

I've been through alot since the old KP board was taken down and i blame it all on KP! (I know i shouldn't but i do lol) I was going out with my bf for about 1 year and 8 months, when i finally decided to confess to him bout my kp... (he had already seen it but never asked what it was or mentioned it) Like, it was more for me than for him, i had previously been so worried about him seeing it on my arms, and would always hide it, and i was so proud of myself to finally have the courage to tell him about it... and i finally told him, and he was like "oh yeh those pimples u have all ova ur body ive already seen them" i got really defensive n was like "they r not pimples! and i dont have it ALL ova my body!" but anywayz to cut a long story short, he dumped me a few days later out of the blue (coincedently the same night the kp msg board went down!

.... like i just cant seem 2 explain it and the only answer i can find is cuz of the KP... sounds stupid i know, but he just all of a sudden decided he didnt love me coincedently the same time i told him about kp. Of course there mustve been sumfin else, but i'm sure the kp had sumfin 2 do with it!!

This happend 3 months ago, and ever since then i've been extremely depressed

He was my first real love so i haven't been coping well at all going thru this breakup. He was my best friend too. After he dumped me i gave up on treating my kp cuz i felt there was no point. I get told that i can easily get another bf who will respect me (my ex was an ******* 2 me) and i get told i'm good looking by lots of guys, cept I'm too scared to get a new bf because im scared of his reaction when he see's or i tell him about my kp... I have no self-esteem at all!! I hate how kp limits us.

Anywayz, after about 2 months i decided i was gonna fight the kp again, and purchased sum more MSM, i had run out of sulfur soap so was just going to try the MSM by itself.... and what i found was interesting.. heaps of ppl have said that MSM doesnt do anything for them, but for me it really cleared up sum patches all by itself without any scrubbing or sulfur soap. So yeh.. it must work, unless it had sum placebo effect on me! A birthday of a friends was coming up and i knew that my ex was going to be there and he had told alot of the guys that i cant wear sleevless tops and i despertaly wanted to show them that i do have confidence (cuz my lack of confidence mixed with kp is wat i believe drove him away) and can wear those tops so i scrubed my arms, slapped on st.tropez fake tan, scrubed my arms again (cuz the tan got caught in sum of the pores n scars) and put a layer of foundation on both arms with a makeup sponge then brushed on translucent powder over them and put on a little red halter neck top! for like the first time in about 4 years i went out in public with a sleeveless top!!

i was so proud of myself lol Luckily the bday was at a club, so it was kinda dark anywayz which helped! But yeh, i felt sooooooo good being able 2 wear a sleeveless top, at first i was scared ppl were going to give me weird looks if they saw my kp, but i asked one of the guys if he could see a rash on my arms and he was like "what? nah what r u talking about i cant see anything" and i even got compliments from sum of the guys tellin me that i looked really good. It was like the best feeling... i wish i could feel like that everyday. My ex got kicked out of the club that night which was extra funny cuz he tried to punch the guy i had brought with me lol. I just wish i could wear shortsleeve tops in daylight!! but arghh wat can u do...

lytung · #23 03-07-2006, 08:38 PM

Well, let me tell you something. Dont be depressed because of what you have and who you are. KP is just part of us. You have to be proud of yourself and not let that bring your self esteem down-which is what i see its happening. If you let it bother you and make yourself look lesser than you think you are, people notice and think that you're not worth it because even you think you're not worth it! so its all psychological.

I have a lot of KP on my arms and I am recently engaged and we're very happy together. He doesn't care that much about it and he loves ME for who i am, and not for what my skin looks. SO you need to find that someone who loves you for who you are unconditionally and not jerks like your ex-boyfriend!

Anyways, I hope this helps, good luck in finding your true love as well as a true solution to the KP.

RedSandy · #24 04-20-2006, 04:31 AM

Sorry to hear that, BabyCoco. He really wasn't worth your love!
But I know what it feels like to be to anxious about this kp thing. Some of my relationships broke up just because I was too self-conscious, especially if things developed very fast. If i didn't have the confidence and trust needed, I would always pull away my arms and thighs whenever my boyfriend wanted to touch them. I guess they never even noticed the bumps, but after a while some complained that they couldn't get really close to me, that they didn't trust me and so on. But I also had a five year relationship with someone who knew about it and who never cared at all. Instead he kept praising the skin on my belly, back and face, which is not affected - and made me feel great this way.
i am currently dating a really nice guy - we take our time, and I feel that this is just what I need - enough time to feel the trust and confidence that someone is really interested in me. I haven't had symptoms for a few years, as i keep a strong diet and go to the sauna regulary (see my other posts), but I know kp will always be a part of me. And as soon as I have to take medicine, can't go to the sauna or eat the wrong things because of stress at work, kp returns..so there is absolutely no way you can have a good and trusting relationship without telling the guy about your kp. I will tell him sooner or later, i know, and you have done the right thing babycoco!!

Ashley15 · #25 04-20-2006, 03:26 PM

wow! im glad i read this message board because i dont ever show my skin not even when im home in front of my family 24/7 i wear jeans and hoodies because im 15 it's really hard to look at girls my age wearing shorts and tanks and going swimming everyday and yet i walk around sweating to death wearing long sleeves, im very emotional about my skin so i havent had a boyfriend in a while because i dump them everytime i feel like we get close because i dont want them to ask me why i dont wear short sleeves.

& its really hard to explain to my family how hard it is for me to wear t-shirts
because they always yell at me when i complain that im hott
and it really sucks having a skin condition because i know im pretty and i would love so wear a sleevless shirt sometime but i wont because im scared someone will say something and at my age looks are everything!
people my age get judged on how they look so its really nice to know that other people feel somewhat the same way? ..

laurag · #26 05-03-2006, 02:58 AM

I live in Austin I have not worn sleeveless since I was about 12. I totally know how you feel. All the cutest spring and summer fashions are sleeveless. I would give almost anything to wear those clothes and not feel like everyone is looking at my arms. My KP is extremely severe because I can not leave it alone it is almost OCD to mess with the bumps. I am so glad I found this site and this thread, and your post in particular moved me to tears. -Laura

sophy · #27 05-03-2006, 10:31 AM

BabyCoco, I think you are better off without that idiot, he's obviuosly just ignorant and stupid and not worth the tears. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years doesnt care about my KP, he says it isnt that noticeable even though I get nasty comments and weird looks from people (inculding those I work with!) so he obviuosly can see past the KP and loves me for who I am, One day you'll find someone special who wont care about your KP, Good luck

sophy · #28 05-03-2006, 10:36 AM

Ashley15, reading your post was so upsetting, you really shouldn't be suffering like this on your own, you should at least confide in your family and explain how you feel, maybe they'll be able to boost your confidence. I've had KP since I was your age, I'm now 25, and I too found it really hard when I was younger and I do now, but you have to stay strong and try to love yourself, focus on what you like about yourself, and don't let the KP rule your life, and stand up for yourself. What have you tried so far?

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Originally Posted by Ashley15

wow! im glad i read this message board because i dont ever show my skin not even when im home in front of my family 24/7 i wear jeans and hoodies because im 15 it's really hard to look at girls my age wearing shorts and tanks and going swimming everyday and yet i walk around sweating to death wearing long sleeves, im very emotional about my skin so i havent had a boyfriend in a while because i dump them everytime i feel like we get close because i dont want them to ask me why i dont wear short sleeves.

& its really hard to explain to my family how hard it is for me to wear t-shirts
because they always yell at me when i complain that im hott
and it really sucks having a skin condition because i know im pretty and i would love so wear a sleevless shirt sometime but i wont because im scared someone will say something and at my age looks are everything!
people my age get judged on how they look so its really nice to know that other people feel somewhat the same way? ..

Ryan · #29 05-04-2006, 12:24 PM

My Gf has KP also. We have been together for 6 wonderful years and I plan on marrying here this year. If the guy dumped you for this reason he did you a favour.She suffers with the same pshchological issues as your self. I am goingto introduce her to this forum. I do hope that one day there eill be a cure..