I have KP all over my legs, buttocks, and upper back. Although, exfoliating has helped to smooth out the skin, the bumps and spots are still there. I was with a guy for four years and he never had a problem with my condition, but unfortunately, we parted ways a year ago. I am TERRIFIED now of getting close to another person b/c I don't know if he'll be okay with my condition.

From personal experience, has KP been a problem for you when dating or in romantic situations? Is there anything you do?

Please DON'T tell me that if I find the right guy he won't care. I know this, but realistically not a lot of guys can overlook this. Thanks!!!

Maybe we should start a dating site for people with KP? That way they won't care because they'll have it too.... Just kidding.

Seriously, I don't date. I'm 22 so it's not so much of a problem. I would of course like to get married etc. when I'm older but I'm hoping I will beat it by then.

There are some posts on the women's board (eg Think i got dumped cuz of KP! Grrrrr) which you might want to look at if you haven't already. There's quite a lot of people with it who seem to have issues with dating.

I could date and never let him see my arms but I'd feel like there was a big secret I was keeping if you know what I mean. So I find it easier not to. However, if I get to 30 and I haven't cured it maybe I'll have a go at finding someone who doesn't care. There must be someone.

If you really want to date maybe you could find someone who is a bit desperate that way they will be grateful and won't care. I don't know, this is why we need to find a cure!

I do feel a bit though that even if I cured my KP I would just then focus on my next biggest flaw and use that as an excuse to not date (ie I won't date until I've lost 10lb, got rid of my blackheads etc.) so maybe we all try too hard to be 'normal'.

I did think for a while about looking for a blind man with no hands (otherwise he could feel the bumps) but I don't think there are many around...

If you can find a guy with KP maybe that would work. I mean it shouldn't be too difficult, loads of people have it right?

Oh well, good luck. My KP is looking bad today. I'm sure a cure will be found eventually.

I never had KP till I was 20!, now 24 and haven't dated (long term) in 4 years!. I have the mind set that I have to beat it before I can commit to someone again. Before KP life was great!!!!!, since KP it gets sucky!. My KP is getting better and it was sunny here a few days ago and got a tan and my KP was like almost gone; so I think I'm going to go the tanning route when it gets nicer in Calgary. May even try out the tanning beds, see if they help out as much as the sun did. I think people would look at it and be a bit turned off, how do you react when you see KP on you?, think its safe to say thats how other would look at it too. I think in this day and age its a lot about image, and till we find away to clear our skin it'll always be a scary thing to let people see the red bumps. But we are finding ways to make KP live-able. I have found using Glytone kit has been great at smoothing out the bumps and taking the redness down, but only exfoliate once a week, but I use the body wash everyday with just using my hands. I have found the Eucerin PLUS intensive repair body creme been great too. KP Duty has been good as well. But I have never had my skin cleared of the redness since I got KP, but greatly reduce it. I'm also going to try using Urea 40% seeing how it has gotten good reviews from people on here with clearing their KP. The sucky thing is it takes a long time for most of the creams to really work, it could take months!. And I find you have to put it on a few times a day. I think if you date a lot your going to get a few people that say something bad about it and could hurt your inner self greatly. I know one day and hopefully soon we should have something that will clear us up, but until then its random dating for this guy (no connection) and lights out in the bed room! . And when the day comes that we have clear skin then I can look to find that someone special. I also think long term dating is a bad idea for us because we can have a lower self of steam and I don't think its healthy to get into a long term relationship with that in your mind. Sorry for the long post! yikes! haha.

Well, I’ve been married for 17 years and it has never been a problem. It was never a problem when I was in my dating years either. People will be attracted to your personality and areas of common interest more than they will worry about your kp. At least that has been my experience. Just be yourself. I know it may sound trite, but it really is true. If it is meant to be, it’ll work out.

I've had moderate KP as long as I can remember but was never really concerned about it and only recently learned what it is. I definitely disagree with canuck and anna who recommend not getting into serious relationships until your KP has cleared. There's still no cure and why deprive yourself of something really great! I never made it an issue in the past and neither have the guys I've dated. People are attracted to confidence so just know you're worth it and relationships will come. Remember everyone has flaws!

I didn't say I recommended it, there's just no way I'd date whilst I have KP.

I didn't mean to offend anyone. It just makes me sad that anyone would put off something potentially great just to wait for something about themselves to get better. Everyone has flaws and imperfections; that's what makes life interesting. Never stop trying to improve yourself but also just be happy with who you are and what you have to give. Ok, I'm stepping down from my soap box. Sorry, I just couldn't not say something.

mevursuskp :
" From personal experience, has KP been a problem for you when dating or in romantic situations? Is there anything you do?"

its been a huge problem for me. ill never be able to feel comfortable around a girl i like.
i dont think i could ever be in a relationship with a girl who doesn't have kp. a regular woman could never be into me as long as i have this problem. never! that really really really sucks i remember being 15-18 having girlfriends having the time of my life and only having kp on my outer bisepts thinking that it would never get worse, thinking it would go away in a couple of years. nope. i thought i would be on top of the world now at age 24.

anna:
"Maybe we should start a dating site for people with KP? That way they won't care because they'll have it too.... Just kidding."

why not? thats a great idea! i would love to date a girl with kp!! even more than dating a super model. the supermodel could never relate to you or love you.
you would feel very comfortable around another person with kp.
you could chat with the person for sevral years, then both of you could pick an year to meet. for example you guys could say; if by age 30 we havent met someone else and havent cured our kp will meet and go on a date. if it doesnt work out after that then edleast you tried. thats beter than being alone for the rest of your life. rite?

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Hi there!
I a way i think it would be nice to have someone that fully understands what you feel about your skin, true, but i will tell you about my boyfriend.
He was, and is, the hotest guy around!!! And he has the smoothest skin ever, he hasnt even has any body hair but in his legs!!! he uses moisturising and peelings for his face.(We share our pampering days ) and he is an atlethe. What i mean is that first he loves me and he doesnt care about a few pimples in my arms and legs, and second that because he doesnt care about it not only i feel much better and care less, i also work harder to improve my skin, my body shape, my nails...everythig!But not because of him and what might he think, i do it for my self. I see the benefits of the things he does and some i do some i advise. I have learned from him that loving and takin care of your self is very important because you only have this one body and you have to love it, and he has learned from me how hard society can be for people that doesnt feel complitely confident. When we started i had (i still have, by the way) KP and he was a greek sculpture. And he is still the jealous one! Love your self and try to fix this little problem of us, but think that appart from located areas of your skin with a problem, what is beautyfull and good in you?? And if you cant tell, have someone to tell you untill you are able to see. There are far worst skin problems around that have also no cure jet.
You will find love for you and for everybody else!!!

ayla,

"first he loves me and he doesnt care about a few pimples in my arms and legs"

the key words here are " few pimples"

this does not apply to all of us. some of us have it more severly.

non of us would even be here if we all had mild cases, and greek sculpture boyfriends. haha and girlfriends.

YASC
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i have to say i thought that no one would want to be with me and my skin but i met my hubby 18years ago and im still with him and he has no problems with it he doesnt understand it or my daughters but he doesnt bother

Maybe i did not express correctly.
I have a severe case of KP since i was 12. I have it on my arms, back, butt and legs and a year ago it was red, dry and awfull. I have been with my boyfriend more than that. "Few Pimples" is just a way of speaking. It costed me tears and years of feeling like a monster and seeing all the other people so "normal"
I just wanted to send a message of hope trough my experience. There are no miracles here. I went from having all my body swell and full of red bumps to the almost soft, almost clear, still full of scars skin i have now. And it takes a lot of work and a lot of dedication, and if i leave it for just one day it gets worst. But i would never think that im not worth it of the most beautifull and perfect of the guys because of this. Person that judges over looks is not worth it.

John E, women with kp ARE regular women. It may not have been your intent, but you comment about not dating a “regular” woman, is pretty insulting. Not only does is assume a lesser status for a woman with kp, it also assumes that women without kp would see a man with is as “less” worthy. I disagree completely. My wife would disagree completely.

It’s about who you are as a person. It’s really that simple. There is not some “elite” group of people out there because they don’t have kp. It’s really not that big of a deal in the big picture.

ok i should have said regular skin. sorry

"it also assumes that women without kp would see a man with is as “less” worthy. "

THEY DO....MY GOD ....WHAT FANTASY WORLD DO SOME OF YOU LIVE IN?
can i come and live there too. i hope theres still room in the big castle for me.


im saying i would not think of a person with kp as less of a person ,not many people would. but in the context of a relationship you are judged superficialy. thats part of evelution. were animals. we came from monkeys. we can not throw away our heratage.
we are what we are today thanks to evelution.
we pick and choice who we want to mate with based on how attractive they are to us. and how healthy they are. and sorry again kp is not a sign of health.

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John, I’m 49 years old and have had kp since I was 10 or 11. And it’s not just a little bit of kp, it’s on the upper arms, forearms, buttocks, thighs, and torso, so I’ve got a little bit of experience with this. Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal. It’s not fantasy land, it’s the real world. Real people don’t care. I suspect that lack of confidence may be more of a contributing factor in your experience, than kp. Get out there and live man, life is too short not to.