Just wondering how anyone has handled the first time you get intimate with someone? I have been dating a guy for a few weeks and things are going great. We have only kissed and I feel things can go further. He did invite me up to his place on Friday but I declined. I had to work the next day but the KP was more of the barrier. I figured at his apartment I can't control the lighting situation as much as in mine. I also have thought of making sure he is bubbly or drunk and then won't notice. I know this sounds psychotic but I am anxious. I have KP extensively, on my arms, legs, butt. It has actually cleared from my shoulders in a very weird pattern and cleared from my back, I dont know how. I am upset about the butt because I actually have a nice rear but full of red dots! I like to go out clubbing with short sleeve shirts and put the spray on makeup by Sally Hensen that is used for legs and that works pretty well. But I can 't spray that on my whole body and I have alot of roughness now. I hadn't exfoliated since I wasnt dating anyone until now. ANy comments/suggestions/advice?

well i hate to be a downer......but i would say expect the absolute worst.....because that is the most likely thing to happen[sorry] if you expect the worse and it turns out great....then you won't be disapointed.....but if you expect the best and it turns out horrable...then it will feel like a ton of bricks hitting you.......but if that dosnt work out{ i hope it will work out good} dont loose all hope maybe you could find a guy with kp.
maybe the founders of this site will finally create a romance thread here

I wish I knew what to tell you, but I'm sorta in the same position and I feel very conscious myself. But, whatever you do, I just wanted to say that you should never settle to finding a guy who has KP (unless you just happen to hit it off with one who does, but otherwise, I would never use that as a criteria for Mr. Right). You need to find a guy who doesn't care about your KP and I'm sure there are many.

Expecting the absolute worst as per suggested by john is not a bad approach. (Saves you from being disappointed ... but it may also hold you back, make you scared, etc...)

I know how neurotic this condition can make you but don't worry about it. There's millions of people who inhabit this earth and if this dude ends up being weirded out by your kp, than who cares. Better to get it out of the way before you get "attached". I'm a guy and yes i'm very insecure about my kp but I've always had girlfriends that were much better looking than me and they had no problem with my kp. If everyone had kp and only a few didn't then thise without it would be insecure. Kind of a majority rules thing.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Now go get it on!

mikew, i bet you only have a mild case of kp. am i right?

Nope, I'm a kp monster! Covers my arms legs and shoulders and is sprinkled around my chest. I've had it since i can remember which is since i was 3 years old and i'm 25 now.

well it all depends on the type of person this guy is. So either reaction is possible.

Tell you what... why dont you get yourself thigh high stocking and a gartar belt. Therefor less skin thats exposed and it feels good and you'll look HOT!

Tell him you want to keep it on and any guy will not say no..cause he'll find it hot too. Also lay in postions that your bum will be on the bed..like missionary or something. There are lots of different ways to build an illusion

Ok here it is. If he loves you he wont give a monkeys about what he see's on the outside. He is bound to ask but just tell him what it is. Its so common and genetic and he may even have it himself and not even know.

Do not worry just tell him. Longer you wait the harder it gets.

Creating an illusion is a bad idea. Don't start a relationship out with lies, it'll blow up in your face eventually. Plus it'll be harder on you later on.

I agree, if he likes you for you, it wont matter to him. Although i know, it's hard not to hide the bad parts of yourself. I know i always did. But then one day i was extremely irritated with a rash on my face (my dermatitis i think went nuts lol) and i couldnt keep anything on my face (including makeup) so i washed my face and just left it at that. He didnt even care. He always tells me what bothers him is not my problem, but the fact that it hurts me. Even still, im still struggling with it and sometimes worry about him not liking how i look, but it's getting better since he's stuck by me this long.
You deserve someone that loves you for you and wants to support you. I hope this guy realizes its something out of your control.

yah dont try to create an illusion...thats a bad idea........you should talk to him about it first.......and show him. if you realy like him...dont just suprise him with this.
that isnt rite.....ive heard storys about people walking out on someone in the middle of sex after finding out about kp.......you dont wont to take a chance on that.
your just going to have to let the cat out of the bag.

good luck

It was a suggestion. I thought you will feel more comfortable wearing those things ...just so that you will feel more comfortable showing less skin. It wasnt suggested to create some illusion that you less than perfect and should hide. Cause you are beautiful no matter how much spots you have on your skin....

hi doc18
i didnt tell my first boyfriend about my kp for months, i was so nervous about talking about it and i was pretty upset when i did tell him, my kp was quite bad then. he looked very confused at what i was saying (i was apologising for my skin) and said "but its just your skin." that meant a lot to me because of course he had noticed but he didn't care much about it, noone is free from imperfections and he had a pretty big list of them now i never apologise for it and although i do my best to improve my skin i also think it is equally important to work on your general confidence as that is a very sexy characteristic. your guy wants to have sex with you because its you, your looks your personality etc thats got him interested hes not looking to sleep with a pick and mix of perfect body parts (does that make sense?) i dont remember the person that made the quote but she said "men dont care what you look like in bed, they just want you naked and moaning", this is so true, noone will be perfect just work what youve got.
personally i wait till i've slept with a guy a few times before i mention the Kp - i dont want to pour my heart out to someone who turns out to be a selfish lover ha ha.
also i just want to say i went out witha guy who had excema, it was a big issue for him and i couldn't have cared less it was almost like i saw past it and it didn't in any way affect how gorgeous i thought he was. point is we think kp is ugly and unattractive becasue we have it and spend too much time thinking about it, boyfriends in my experience dont see it as a very big deal, just like i didn't see the excema as a big deal, i just didn't think about it.
think hot you will be hot and he'll be all over you guaranteed

aw...its ok...its true...if he does love you...he wouldnt care...my bf...omg...first time...i was so so so nervous i was pretty sure he would notice but he doesnt...either that or he does but does not care at all...it would really suck if you keep on trying to hide it up to the point where he finally sees it...i know its hard...but i am trying my best...he knows i have them on my arms but he always tell me they are perfect...if he doesnt like them...he doesnt deserve you...i have them on my butt too...he feels on it but he says my butt is soft...just remember to put on lotion

so what happened DOC 18 ?