Hi everyone

As a kp sufferer i am not a very confident secure person. But im so confused about my judgement concerning my boyfriend. Im constantly fighting with myself as to am i being reasonable or am i over- reacting.

I got him the usual Valentine's gift chocolates and a card. The chocolates he ate up in a matter of minutes ( while playing playstation at my place) and the card was read and thrown on my dressing room table. Im a person who enjoy writing and practically wrote the card full of my feelings towards him. So it was deep and meaningful to me. BUt Valentines day was last week and he still never took it home. The other night when he was leaving my house he was like " i feel like im forgeting something" and i thought oh sweet its the card.... But it was a game. So a stupid game is more important. And what hurts is the fact that on top of his cabinet in his room is little memorabilia from other people.

So the question is... Does he care or is he just being a typical guy and mushy card stuff dont mean much.

One thing about guys is that they are often completely clueless as to what you're thinking or that their behavior is hurtful to you. The only remedy is to open up and calmly, patiently discuss your feelings as specifically as possible. Do it in a manner that makes him feel informed and educated about you, rather than attacked. If you give him a reason to go on the defensive, your attmept to communicate will be fruitless. Handle it with care, but give him a crystal clear idea of how he can make you feel that you are loved by him and important in his life. If he doesn't act on it at that point, you have your answer.

i agree with the others. guys aren't as sensistive as us gals are which means of course, they aren't as in tune with their feelings. you can't tip toe around and expect them to figure out that you're hurt. i did that with my ex and it just ended up frustrating me even more. and the sooner you bring it up, the better because the longer you wait, then the harder it will be to jog your guy's memory in regards to the series of events that occurred leading up to your frustration. if he sincerely apologizes, then great, accept his apology. but if he shrugs it off and makes like you're being oversensistive, then i'd be sooooooooo PO if i were you....just saying this from experience.

Good stuff guys. I totally agree. You have to talk to men in a way where they feel comfortable and never be afraid to express your true feelings. Once you tell him how you feel in a calm manner you will feel a whole lot better. If he lashes out at you and is defensive and he's continuously doing this then that's your red flag to get out of the relationship. Yeah some men can be clueless sometimes, but if it happens too often then I would definitely re-evaluate the relationship.

I already exploded at him after all the steam was out i could speak to him calmly. He said he's sorry and a whole long story how much the words meant to him and how it touched him.. Even though he forgot it there its not forgotten in his mind..

Anyway i dont know what to think about it im just gonna forget it...

Thanks guys for the advice

Its nice to get away from the kp topic we cant revolve our lives so much around it