I have suffered with KP on my back and my behind since puberty but over the last year the KP on my back has disappeared without a trace and there is relatively little scarring so I am ok wearing most backless stuff now. I also make sure I use an exfoliating mitt everyday to prevent it from coming back.

Now I only have one really big issue and that is the Kp on my behind, It is so prevelant and blooming stubborn and I have tried everything. I used to vigorously scrub with a scouring pad which made the skin bleed and scab up, I tired various creams, pills, potions and lotions but to no avail and now I am getting to the point where it is effecting my relationships hence I am not in one anymore. I just can not bare for anyone to see it so I used upset an then my ex partner used to shout cos he doesn't know what the big deal is and then I get even more upset and we would end up in massive arguments with me usually saying you do not understand. I dream of having perfect skin and when you watch all these programs and read all the magazine the women always have beautiful skin. I keep thinking this will really put any men off me and anyone who does show intrest in me I will just push away as I don't want to get close enough for them to discover what my skin looks like.

i was wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience were the kp starts effecting your relationship. I know that my ex said that he loved my skin and it didn't matter to him but he did look at other women without kp and was always saying how wonderful they looked so I really could not believe anything he said.

I am also planning to go away on holiday next month and have always wanted to wear a bikini but the Kp is so bad that I am afraid of what people on the beach would say. Has anyone had experiences of going on a beach holiday and how did they cope with exposing their Kp.


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hey sharal! i go to the beach all the time, and i could care less what anyone thinks about my kp. nobody is perfect, believe me, and we all have our share of flaws. don't let that ever hold you back as you deserve to enjoy whatever you choose to do as anyone else does. my kp does bother me personally, but you can't let that hold you back from doing what you want. you only live once, and while i know how frustrating it can be, there will be help one day. if people seriously have nothing better to do than to pick out flaws on someone else, then to hell with them, and they aren't even worth a second of your time.

I used to worry about it and I wouldn't wear short sleeves, but my DH couldn't care less about my skin.. he has issues of his own he's insecure about. I think he's silly for being worries about his issues because they're SO insignificant! Then it dawned on me (LIGHTBULB) he feels the same way about my KP.. NO BIGGIE!! He coudlnt' understand why I was so hung up on it!

EVERYONE has an imperfect butt. Whether it be KP, hair, wrinkles or dimples, whatever- butts just aren't as cute as models and movies would like to have us believe. If your partner has seen any other butts, he or she probably knows this. A little bit of confidence (very sexy) will outweigh some bumps. Not that it fixes the bumps, but a man or woman who can't get over the bumps isn't worth it.

Sharal, I know how you feel, i used to hate to go to the beach because of the fact that i couldn't wear a bikini. I have kp on my behind as well as my thighs and arms. I can care less showing my thighs and arms, but i have not the courage to show my behind. So what i do when i go to the beach, is wear a bikini and wear those wrap around see thru skirts. That makes you feel sexy but not showing your kp on your behind. Beleive me it took me 20 plus years to get over the "what will people say" remember that we are not the only ones with this problem, there are alot of people out there with this problem and wearing what ever they want, not a care in the world.
And that's how i'm starting to be, who cares! Nobody has a perfect body nor skin (I bet those girls on those magazines, put on alot of make up). I noticed that exfoliating, using 2% bha and tanning is working just a bit for me, especially where i tan the mose, thighs and arms, but on my behind, I will try going to a tanning salon to sunbathe so i can tan my behind, lets see how that turns. I do hate the fact that i don't feel comfortable being in a relationship because of my behind. Come on we all want to wear sexy lingerie, but that i only wear at night when it's dark. How sad is this ha. That depresses me.

Well let's keep searching for answers guys

I have the same insecrurities about my butt. The face and arms I don't care about, but the butt I am worried about. Mostly its because I've never been in a relationship so I don't know how a guy will react to it. I think its the same a my arms and face, you just gotta get over it and show it in spite of the bumps. I have worn a bikini (a modest one mind you) and I am kind of overweight. The first couple times I was insecure and got in the water quickly, but eventually (last week actually) I didn't think about it at all and went about my beach business. It must be the same for the butt. Though I am pretty insecure about it, so it would take like a warning to the other person or something.......oh shoot now I'm rambling.

Thanks for all your replies guys it has made me feel a little better, I think I am goign to take up your suggestions deejay and find one of those little wrap around things so I don't have to expose my butt to anyone. I went to the shops last night and saw a tankini which made me feel a bit better as I could clove up most of my back and more importantly my behind as the bottoms where like shorts.

JillyBean I guess your right about other having their own issues as my ex was insecure about his weight and would constantly ask me if he looked fat or if he was grossing me out when he was naked.

I guess I will take what you guys have said and just go out there and enjoy myself and hopefully I will have a great time and forget about the whole kp thing (well almost forget).

Deejay, I haven't thought about tanning, I have read a few posts were others have suggested that it helps but I hve always dismissed as at the time I was more into trying various creamd from the pharmacy and hassling my doctor about the whole thing and begging him to give me some sort of miravle pill.

I think one of the things that does get to me is that I was asked of I would do a few test shots as a friend of mine wanted to submit my picture for television advertisments. The biggest thing that let me down was fear of my skin looking bad and now I think I might have lost out on a real opportunity. Oh well the world of accountancy calls and I have a million and one invoices and reconcillations to do.

Sharal, i am glad you are willing to go out there and try and (kind of forget about your kp) have fun. Watch once you are out there minding your own business, you will slowly forget about this problem. Why because if nobody tells you anything and they all go about their business, you will start to feel better about yourself and not care that others see it. That's how i started to not care if everyone sees it. We have to make the best of it, since it is here to stay. Have you been to a laser place? i did a month ago, and the derm. told me that he has seen lots of cases like this and that there is something to help it. He called it a chemical peel. He would have to do it up to four times because laser is meant for small areas not large. they do charge a lot, but i was willing to pay whatever it takes to make it go away. they wanted to charge me 4,000.
the thing that i did not ask (did not know at that time) is that i have been reading on kp websites and they say that it does come back. so why would anyone pay that much if it will continue to come back. so i decided to read more and try new methods and see if any would help it. anyways the experience i had with sun tanning outdoors was not good for me. My red bumps got darker than my skin and so that is how i got the darker dots, not only that, they became irritated and inflamed. So now i want to try the indoor suntanning and see how that goes. but if you beat me to it, let me know how that turns out ok. Good luck to you......i really hope this works for us!

Don't worry we will find something to help it.
see we can look sexy and still cover up

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I asked one of my best guy friends (someone I have been intimate with in the past) amd he was adamant that he did not really notice the kp and he said he was more interested in me as a person and not the state of my skin. I reckon that if this guy will probably not notice it at all but if it is bothering you to the point where it gets in the way of the relationship I would just explain your feelings about the whole thing. I bet you will find out that he has not noticed and he doesn't care so atleast all your fears will be allayed.

Good luck and I hope it all goes well.

I would like to emphasize that the pics in magazines are DOCTORED UP so everyone looks perfect--in reality they aren't. We have a high-def tv and it is AMAZING how much detail you can see on people. Many have lots of caked on make-up or pitted/bumpy skin. The fact is that most everyone has some flaw or another but those in the media or limelight cover it well.

Anyone who loves you isn't going to care about your KP (although they may not understand the mental anguish, either) but the first thing is that YOU need to love you. Seriously, practice creating a better self-image. You can accomplish this by focusing on what you like about yourself, telling yourself you look nice, and trying not to spend all your spare time thinking about KP.

As far as telling someone you're in a relationship with, when you feel that you're ready to share your "deep dark secret" (or however you view KP) then just tell the person that you'd like to share something very personal with them. They should be understanding and supportive, if not kick them to the curb because you don't want to be with someone like that. Be grateful you don't have to tell them you have genital herpes or something contagious.

You know i was married for 11 years and my ex never said anything to me about that, i'm sure he noticed and not said anything to me. No i never mentioned it to him either, why bring it up if they don't say anything that means they obviously don't mind. But now that i am starting a new relationship, i am not at all worried about it. I already exposed my arms when he's around (which i'm sure he's seen) and he has not said anything. But i hope that he likes me for who i am and not for how my skin looks like. We all have flaws.

Anyways i think the way i will talk about this is only if he mentions it. then i will tell him where else i have this kp. If he doesn't mention it, i want to get the courage to tell him (and that's if this relationship goes further) and by then i know that he has seen it and he won't be shocked about it. But i would say to start exposing where you have kp early in the relationship and see how he reacts to it. Because you don't want to start having feelings or feeling stressed about this later in the relashionship. This way you will know if he is a looser or a winner.

Be comfortable around him and he will as well know that that does not bother you at all (which we know it does deep inside) but lets not show it, they will see that you don't care and they will not care as well. it's like closetextrovert said, you need to love yourself even though we have this, concentrate on other parts of your body that you love about yourself and focus on those parts and not your kp. It's hard to do at first but the more you do it the more you will feel comfortable exposing it.

Try this.... tell yourself " it's better to have kp than to have other diseases, abnormality or disabled etc...
some one out there has something worst than what we have.

I hope this helps a bit.
Good Luck

just wanted to elaborate on what deejay said...michael j. fox said in an interview that he was in a support group to talk about parkinson's disease. in that group, they were asked to put all of their diseases into a "pot" and then pick which one they would rather live with. he said that everyone always ends up choosing their own disease. in the long run, kp is just a pain in the ass, and thats it. also, from a guy's point of view, i could care less about a girl having kp, and i know that my friends feel the same way. if someone should care about it, then they should definitely be kicked to the curb. try no to let it bother you (i know its hard), and get out there and live life.

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i wish u KP chicks wouldnt hide it...i would not mind at all if my gf had KP... i acutally find myself looking for girls with KP!

i personally have noticed that while im at the gym, if a girl with KP see my KP then she will sometimes get even closer to me and there seems to be a comfort level there.

u chicks should just be proud and wear what u want, that way it will be easier for guys with KP to spot ya