Originally Posted by iris23

i've got to tell you lone wolf, none of the guys i dated ever cared about my kp. if you dress right it's hardly ever an issue anyway. i live in l.a. and have managed to deal with it.

remember, your attitude, how you project yourself and how you treat people are much more important than your looks. and it sounds like you look pretty good anyway i bet you'll be fine.

p.s. now i'm married, and my husband has some problems with his complexion, not kp but acne. he likes to stay covered up (long sleeves, etc) because of the scars on his arms and back. but we agree that it is great to be with someone else who has "imperfect skin" because we understand each other. he doesn't care about kp and i don't care about his type of "bumps."

Originally Posted by TheShotOne

Hi, Lone Wolf!
I guess we all here felt like we read our own story by reading yours!

It's that sad-ish to have KP and I would be lying (I am Brazilian, so excuse any mistakes...) if I told you we all find a way to get thru it, because, as you can see, we don't!

But, really, we girls are the 80% of the 50% of KP sufferes in the world, so, chill out, because if the girl you like/want to go out with doesn't have KP, SOMEONE in her family or very close has it!

So, it's not something she has never seen or even touched. Maybe she haven't ASKED about it, but she sure knows by now that a lot of people seems to have this "rough" skin. And the "first seconds" with someone new, no matter if the person touches your arms, she is probably so nervous that she will be touching your arms thinking about what you might be thinking and will hardly let any space in her brain left to use her senses cells (!), so she might touch you, but won't actually FEEL your KP right away. Remember we don't touch someone at "those initial" times (meeting someone at a club,etc) to see how the person's skin FEELS, but just to TOUCH the person, period.

The only non-family people that has EVER commented about my KP were my 2 best friends, because I complain 24/7 about my KP. I had this guy that we were "flirting" for 2 years and he has NEVER even talked about it, god knows if he has even noticed! And I have it all over my arms and legs and in so many other places! Ok, almost all my body!! And I once chose not to be with this very handsome guy because I thought "he's so handsome he will hate my skin!" and I remebered he was touching me all the time and seem to NOT have a problem in touching me, but I was too scared to let him be with me and maybe ask me about it or be freaked out about it. That was 3 years ago and I STILL want to be with this guy! I thought that maybe if I treated my skin I would go after him again. But now, even though I have his number, god know where he is and if he is dating someone. He seemed to really like me and I blew it because of my KP...
I am sure a lot of people here has a story like mine...which is bad...

But I don't think like that anymore. I was born with that, and although I've been doing a treatment for a week now and it's getting really rid of my KP (you should try it!), I am going to start to go out again and if some one ever notice it and ask me I will say "I was born with it!", just like someone's daughter here in this thread uses to say! And, I can say so many things, like, that I am treating it, tell the person all the statistics, etc. Actually, it can become a nice chat topic! The person will see how cool about it you are and will think of how uncool she is about some of her insecurities and will either:
a) Become more confident about her own insecurities, that she sure has while she talks to you ("oh, I don't have enough boobs"," This top makes a little chubby thing on my belly", etc etc...), and that will make her more attractive to you.
b) or/and :She will find you even more attractive, because a person who is confortable with who one is and is confident about one self gets 100% hotter by the second!

And she doesn't need to constantly touch your arms! She can touch your hair, your neck, your belly, your hands...Just think about all the other places she can put her hands on (don't take that to the wrong side, please...)!
You know what I mean? You are more than your arm! How much do YOU think about a girl's arm when you kiss her?

Got it?

So, go ahed, have fun! Soooooo many people have KP and sooo many people with awsome skin are jerks! Thank God you have KP and you're not a jerk!

Go surf! The sun actually does wonders to KP! Girls don't care about your KP! At least not the worthy/cool girls! So you have KP! And your friend who you are avoiding might have something that he is self concious about it too!

We are all here trying to go on with our lives by talking to each other and giving each other support!

So, you worked out, lost your chubby waist, got all handsome, seems to be a nice guy, works, got out of home...C'mon! You can get through this too!!!! Ok?

Try the Treatment @ my Thread!
TheShotOne